If understanding leadership is confusing for adults, imagine how difficult it must seem for children and adolescents? What actions should they undertake to demonstrate good leadership qualities? What are the qualities of being a good team member? How do I get the opportunity to demonstrate it?

Have we made the definition of good leadership so unattainable that mere mortals can’t achieve it?

Great leadership can be defined as influencing others in a positive way. The positive influence most often associated with leadership involves big statements, larger than life actions and courageous achievements. Perhaps we need to focus less on Leadership with a big ‘L’ and more on leadership with a ‘little l’.

To paraphrase a favourite movie, leadership is actually all around us. There are people leading by example and guiding others through difficult times in all major industries, yet their behaviours may be ignored because it doesn’t fit into the ‘big L’ category of leadership.

Take a moment to think about the leaders, managers, parents, teachers and mentors that have influenced your life the most. Now consider what they did to make you feel that way about them. Having asked this question of hundreds of managers, the answers are rarely Braveheartesque (my term – a ‘big L’ leadership statement that inspired the masses to feats of greatness – ‘sons of Scotland’ etc) in nature. They are small things; providing you an opportunity when others wouldn’t, seeing potential in you, guiding you and providing advice, demonstrating a better way of doing things. It might have even been having that difficult conversation about your behaviour that wasn’t quite up to par. It could have been standing up for you when other didn’t / wouldn’t. It is these ‘little l’ leadership moments that make our mentors great, often backed up by personal example that extends for months and years.

Our students may have been seeing examples such as these in their daily lives, but not realised that these small actions are what good leadership is made of.

The ted.com video below by Drew Dudley highlights that sometimes it is the small moments of helping and guiding another that have the most profound leadership impact.


Can you remember the people/person that influenced your leadership and teaching the most? What are the examples, behaviours, attitudes and ethics that were demonstrated to you that have affected you the most? I can think of four defining moments, but the first is the one that probably had the most lasting impact. I have had cause to reflect on the picture below several times in the last week or so, as ANZAC Day has played such a large part on my life. ANZAC Day is the one day of the year that I truly miss being a member of the Air Force. It is also a time when I remember the great teams I have worked with and the great leaders that I have been led by. It was on that day in 1999 (as a Catafalque party member) and in 2002 (carrying the Queen’s Colour) that I truly felt proud of what I had achieved as a leader with the wonderful people I had an opportunity to work with. It is also one of my earliest memories.



This picture was taken when I was five years old. It is a grainy old picture now, but I remember the day being cloudy and crisply cold. I was standing next to my Mum and brother, watching the three members of the Catafalque party as the Last Post was sounded. I remember shivering, and couldn’t understand how the men lowering their heads over their rifles could stand so still for so long without doing the same. Over time, this photo came to represent what I thought being in the military was about; disciplined, focused and resolute. It also came to represent many of my thoughts on leadership regarding duty, doing things for others and trying to achieve a higher goal. For many years that picture was what I aspired to be.

It is a picture of Staff Sergeant Stephen Peiniger – my Dad.

The earliest and one of my strongest leadership memories involved someone not being able to move an inch and not being able to make a sound. The image, feelings and awe are as vivid today as they were when I was five.

Leadership is as much about the big, bold decisions and statements as it is about the small, personal influences that we have on the lives of those around us. The students that we work with see the same examples – from you, their peers, their parents and in public life. Sometimes it just takes context for them to recognise the skills, qualities and behaviours that distinguish the good leadership from the poor.

The discussion you have with a student about striving to be better and achieving more than they have been could be the leadership catalyst that lives in that child’s memory for years to come. In the ongoing debate on whether politicians, business leaders or sportspeople demonstrate leadership, we should remember that the longest lasting leadership influences start with a ‘little l’, and that shouldn’t be forgotten.

Need help in developing your ‘little l’ leadership?

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